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Dharamendra …You are the Evergreen Bollywood Hero

Posted in Chit-Chat by dearestfriend on June 23, 2007

I got chance to watch IIFA awards online. God bless the soul who has made it available online for hopeless NRIs like me.
Well I liked it overall. Though, it touched some of my deep chords. But overall, it was complete entertainment Indian way. I loved Lara’s diction. How glamorous she can look is always understatement. Amitabh and his family have failed to catch my attention owing my dislike for their orthodox stands. But I wonder we made Amitabh too big for his own shoes. I guess all other actors of his age, haven’t got ten percent of media and headspace. I wish he and his family gets on their roots soon. No ill-will but behaving the way they have done in past.. I guess all they deserve is complete ignorance by media , by people and others.. Soon they will know what it is to be a “publicly ignored public figure”.
Having said that, I loved most of the winners in award except best actor category, I wonder how come Amir khan is not considered. What touched my chord deep inside is Dharmendra’s speech. I wondered this elder actor hasn’t got any share of the pie of Amitabh age of roles.. I wish he does.. when he was speaking , his face was so evident of the strain of dual life he has been living. I really have no authority to say it, but as they are public figures. We do get interested to know about them. I always felt falling for Hema was disastrous for Darmendra ‘s life in overall picture. But Hema was too big a world to be ignored.
I can understand the tussle and mental dilemma Dharmendra has lived through.. No one needs to read about it anywhere. It’s written all over his face. Our choices so govern our life. Sometime I wonder, when we really don’t have total control over our life. Do we really have freedom to make the choices?
Dharamendra and his sons were on stage, and it was so clear that this family is strained emotionally to its limits. Seeing Amitabh standing behind this..was like seeing two dichotomies of choices. It occurred to my mind..If Amitabh would have opted to leave Jaya and include Rekha in his life, Would he look like Dharamendra , Tired, lost and emotioanlly drained….
Even now he doesn’t look great either..He just looks empty deep inside and superficially having “full plate”. He has one son..who shows to world, his father is his god.. or whatever ..It was clear that Hema was n’t there.. If she would have been there..It would have been a worth watch speculation.. Thanks to my mind, Jaya wasn’t there. I really dislike her genre of women. I would love Rekha anytime better than this Woman. At least she has courage and guts..
These movie stars lead a life which is sometimes more convoluted than the roles they play. I always pity them for the pressure and vacuum they have to live with.. Yes pity.. I don’t Idolize them, don’t madly worship them, don’t think they are too good to look at.. I just pity them for the price they pay for materialism. If they come from average families like middle class ones.. They are little better fortunate compared to the ones who are born in this emptiness.
We don’t choose our parents.. I think that s why it simplifies our life in our childhood. Atleast for most of us. Not for all; because for some, parents are biggest demon they will ever meet in life.

With all above thoughts going on in mind, I had my dose of bollywood entertainment. Long live bollywood..


No time to do anything…

Posted in Free thoughts by dearestfriend on June 22, 2007

Well yeah I have been very busy for my blog.But Its always on my radar to write something..Lot is happening in my little world.. But what seized my mind was an office incident yesterday..
I am numb inside. Dont know what to do of this. One colleague of mine whose office was 4 offices away from me.. Died unfortuantely in car accident on saturday. Its sad and very sad occassion. But I couldn’t help and wonder.. Are n’t we living life as any other insect on this earth.. We just have more defined and sofisticated living conditions. But our life is as inpredicatble as theirs.
This person I saw on friday, with lots of choclate boxes on his office desk.. yesterday his family came to office.. And there was a small mass.Today his office has a blank name plate. and a blankness which will be filled in a month or two.. But dont you think, if he knew he will not live longer than 26 years of his age.. He would have never wasted his life doing things he never loved too much.. Coming to office, saving 401k, going to more economic grocery store, collecting coupens to save one or two dollars.. all that look such a waste of time.. While all he would have collected is lying here..I felt too many things though I never had chance to work with the guy. But personally I could not attend the mass becos I was running for my mundane medical visits.

Do we really have a soul?

Posted in Chit-Chat by dearestfriend on June 13, 2007

Well this is more from my beliefs than my knowledge. I know we always mix them up in our minds.. and then come up with something hazy in between..May be we call it a conviction.. a belief supported by logic, acceptable to us.

As a practicing Hindu, I personally believe we all have souls. But then my dear life partner continues to increase my curiosity about otherwise belief too. Once he asked what makes you feel that soul does exist in us.. In process of explaining him, I realized my own beliefs were guiding this knowledge in me.. So I left the discussion in middle. Then I ended up asking myself… We always feel we have mental faculty working somewhere in head.. And emotional faculty working somewhere in chest.. then which part of the body soul is existing in..
In my arguments, I raised a point.. Saying..
“Do you ever feel there are three voices in you..”
One telling you , this is wise solution.
Other telling you , this is what I want..
And the third one telling you.. It doesn’t really matter in long run, what you choose in so and so problem.. Instead work on improving your soul…
Now my practical and less thinking partner really got confused. He said he doesn’t know.. He never has any voices per say.. There is only mind which thinks and does… umm…
“too much thinking is bad”, I muttered to myself 🙂
Other time my solid belief about souls gets questioned is ..When i see ant, animals and insects in hordes, living their lives insignificantly and die just as insignificant.. I wonder.. are we also like them just living in better conditions and thinking we are too wise for this earth.. But don’t we also end up living many times a mundane and useless part… which if scrapped from life won’t really change anything in life. some years deducted from youth, adulthood, old age..

Other day I saw a movie.. called .. “Night at museum” and it gave a wonderful fantasy to think about.. what if all our past events are really happening in dimension of time.. and we are just in different co-ordinates..so we cannt see that..
I know its too esoteric…But then that’s what we have our mind for..

Someone once told me..As per some ritual in soul philosophy, it’s not a crime to murder someone.. But in the same ritual it’s a big crime to commit rape. I was puzzled like any other normal person. Why… Life is important.. How come taking someone’s life is not a crime.. It we had this in our real world.. half the population will vanish in one minute 😉
Bcoz each person has more than one person..they would like to kill.. if permitted.
That person told me, As per that philosophy, it s rather a favor one is doing to release the soul from body. For soul living a life in body is a punishment.. As soul we are supposed to free and rejoicing in heaven with our universal source..Not doing mundane thing of life on earth… I was like..Now I know.. Why i get bugged every other day in week, while going to office..while cleaning my house.. or ironing my clothes.. Now I get it..Um.. so there is that soul which is getting fed up inside.. while I am doing the regular boring chores in daily life..

Then I asked the most evident question to this gentleman. Have you felt a soul yourself.. He said he does daily while he takes his soul out of his body.. and go wander the world.. I was like what… Are you kidding.. You need to teach me how to do it.. He told me first few steps.. I tried.. it seemed to work.. But then average person that I am.. I left in half way.. too scared to try it further.. What if i could n’t come back to my dear body.. Who will clean my house.. who will cook and who will use my 29456 items in personal care section of my cup-board 😉
so i came back to my good old body..
This gentleman claimed he can see future and past both… as per him.. past, present and future are nothing but some co-ordinates in time dimension of universe… I was too tempted.. But then, as a normal person I was scared also.. So i didn’t try.. I told him to check my future though 😉

What do you think.. Do we really have soul.. for me I choose to be guided by my beliefs and occasionally be questioned by my mind about those beliefs…

Movie Weekend

Posted in Chit-Chat by dearestfriend on June 5, 2007

I had chance to dabble in couple of movies last weekend…
Kuch Meetha Ho jaye – Hindi Movie
A night at Museum – A movie released on Dec 2006.
Knocked Up — Latest flick in Theatres now
I liked two of them.. No prizes for guess the not-liked movie. It was Hindi flick which was too usual routine kinds . But I still get my dose of bollywood at times.
Those who want to read how is it. I would give neutral view and would refrain to say too negative. Movie is ordinary, one time see kinds. It’s about a long awaited flight on airport. Director wanted to convey too many stories in span of 2 hours. And I guess he did fall shot and got lost.. Some places Arshad Varsi looked heavily under-utilised. All he had was some stupid stale jokes. And even someone as talented as Jaspal Bhatti was wasted in the movie. Which is quite sad.. I would say such flick should be tried with not more than 3-4 couples’ story. I lost the count of stories director was trying to cover. Mahima Chaowdhary looked so unnecessary in the movie.. She could have been better just in photo frame in Arshad warsi’s office.

Now moving on to my favorite ones.
Night at Museum – Its about a guy who needs a stable job rather badly. Ben Stiller as usual gives another powerful and convincing portray of character. Now there ‘s something I need to udnerstand about American Husbands(at least in most American movies) who choose to end marriage as they want and then later feel angry on their wive’s latest boyfriend.. I mean if you loved ur wife so much.. Why not keep the marriage. Best part I liked about the movie was the story line, Which director stuck to so finely. Sometime you wonder how these directors find their rhythm of telling a story and not get carried away.. The guy gets a job as a night watchman for the national history museum. And the fun starts after he joins there. I wouldn’t spoil the mystery by writing it here.. What i just would point is.. after this movie, You may get more interested to read about world history. At least I am 🙂

Knocked up- It’s just another standup comedy.. But I liked it for some other honest reasons. Cast in movie has given quite decent performance. My point of liking was how they could portray motherhood in its true sense without any gloss. Beautiful.. I have heard folks telling motherhood is all this beautiful stuff. and on other note I have heard folks telling motherhood is all this not-so-decent stuff. But What i miss is.. “In between the lines” part… why people don’t treat it something as common as a copulation or a Menstrual cycle.. I mean it has its dose of good and bad.. Why glorify one or other side.. That’s what I liked best about the movie. It treated the topic so honestly and so without opinion… Thats how motherhood should be treated.. A matter of fact.. No gloss and no exaggeration of pain..I loved it.. Ok to talk summary of movie story. It’s about a girl who gets knocked up on one casual date. Guy and girl are so mismatched for each other.. yet they decide to come together and support gal’s decision to carry the baby.. Now for my mind, I don’t understand why someone in her position would like to carry that.. But it s movie. And director gets to decide ..so thats fine.. In my opinion movie deserves a watch.. You would find lots to laugh about..